You’ve been on so many dates, but you’re still not sure what makes a date go right or wrong. This 28-year-old girl has an answer. Tanyuda Boorananwut, nicknamed Bonbelle, is an author of a pocket book published 19 times over called Rak Hai Mun Tong Tun Phoochai. She's written more since, like Had Bariharn Saneh Bang Si Ya and Kled Mai Lub Chabab Kon Rak Tua-eang. She’s a cute-looking girl and is a former “pretty,” which allowed her to meet many guys. Bonbelle gives us some tips on dating.

Girls, Get Ready

1The most annoying thing about a girl during a date is if she shows off: “I know this guy, that guy… I come from this family… My mother owns…” So what? Don’t make him feel inferior and don’t make it seem like you are superficial.

2 Whether you like him or not, just let him lead the date. Don’t put up a wall and say something like, “Why the hell would you take me to such a place?” To like or dislike something, you gotta try it first. There might be something you like in those places—or in him—who knows?

3 Dress like you ordinarily do. If you like tank tops and jeans, go for it. If you choose what you aren’t familiar with—like heels or heavy make-up or short skirts—you will feel uncomfortable all day; whether sitting, walking or standing. You are on a date and you are already nervous and anxious; don’t make yourself worry more about other things.

4 For the first few dates, it’s better to pay for yourself. Or if he pays for the meal, then you can offer to pay for the movie tickets. If he feels comfortable paying for you, you might let him pay three times, and the fourth time you pay. Don’t take too much advantage of a guy who you aren’t sure if you’re even going to like.

5 Arriving late is not wrong; just don’t do it too often. Call if you’re going to be late—don’t make him wonder when you are going to show up.

6 Don’t ab-baew by acting too cute and innocent. Guys date ab-beaw girls just for fun and not for long. From my experience, guys prefer girls with a brain. Being intelligent doesn’t mean you have to know everything, but it means you should know when to act innocent, when to argue and when to be sweet.     

Guys, Watch Out

1 For the first few dates, it’s still OK if you take her to expensive places. But try to mix your dates up with cheaper places as well. Don’t spoil her by only taking her to luxurious places. 
2 Aggressive guys aren’t appealing, at all. If you scold those kids who sell flowers on street, it shows that you can’t control your emotions. Girls notice the tiniest traits.
3 Don’t boast. She doesn’t wanna know who your father is. If she’s clever, she will know you are just a stupid rich ass.
4 Spoiling and going along with what the girl wants too much is sometimes irritating. She might wonder “Can he think for himself?” You have to ask what she likes, but you have to make your own decisions as to where to go and what to do as well.
5 In Thai culture, men usually pay. Especially if you ask her out, she will expect you to pay. If she offers to pay or to share, then you can let her pay but you should pay more, even a little bit more.
6 Dress the way you are, but keep yourself clean—don’t let your artistic untidy spirit take over.

Topics You Should Avoid  

Exes. Want to create awkward silence? No one can really benefit from talking about his/her ex, whether positively or negatively. Your date either thinks you are a big mouth who likes gossiping about your ex or that you can’t get over him/her.

Money. Whether you are boasting that you are rich or that you know wealthy people only creates a nuisance for your date. You especially don’t want to ask about his/her salary.

Matters that are too personal. Even if you want to know him/her more, take some time. Don’t blurt out questions on your first dates like, “What size jeans do you wear?” or “What does your father do?” or “Who will you vote for?”  

Dirty jokes. This one is not so bad, if you know your date is into them. But it kind of shows your true self too much and too soon.