Dear Sexpert, We’re a group of gals who’ve dated Thai guys and foreigners from many different countries—Australia, Scandinavia, America, Italy, Indians and Arabs, and we want to know where the best guys to have sex with are from.—Out For Fun

Dear OFF, You and your girlfriends are already off to a good start and seem to have covered a lot of ground—even more possibly, than Ms. Ho. If anyone were to know where the best hot sex hails from, I have a feeling it would be you. To answer your question yourself, approach it systematically. Have you left any continents unturned? I don’t see South America or Africa up there, though you can skip Antarctica unless penguins are your thing. If you want to approach it on the geo-political level, at the moment there are 194 countries.

Systematize like you’d accessorize. Looking for the best handbag? It will depend on what you expect to get out of it, the quality you are looking for, where you’ll be using it, and of course, the price you are willing to pay, right?

You want to get good sex out of it? All men are not created equal. Some really are better movers and shakers than others, and broad cultural generalizations may come in handy here—although there’s always the diamond in the rough who bucks all trends. Men who come from cultures with good music and dance moves—think salsa, think samba, African roots—tend to sway their hips better. Concerning size, well, there are certain stereotypes you could follow. Presentation is very important—what’s the best in personal style, grooming and appearance? This is one for you to narrow down.

How willing is he to do whatever it takes to please you? Some cultures are more kinky than others. Scandinavians are pretty liberated, open to a lot of exciting things. Thai men are famous for not going down there. On the other hand, they will take care of you—which means simple things like never having to drive, carry anything, or pay for your newest handbag. The level of sexism in a society often affects how good one of its sons is in the sack. Coming from a culture that thinks it’s important for a woman to be physically satisfied is a good thing. Unfortunately, that rules out most continents, so go by country here.

Quality: This one isn’t color or culture specific. Depends again what you think is important. Slick and expensive? (Italian). Simple but well-made? (English). Depends where the purchase is made too—if a bargain basement buy lets you down, well, maybe you should’ve looked in a better place. How quality translates to value under the sheets lcan be a real surprise. Observe closely and choose wisely and you could end up with the flash showpiece that is super-functional, or the simple and inexpensive number that is so comfortable to carry, lasts forever and goes with any occasion…

The price you pay for this sort of thing is experience. You’ll get better at it the more you do it, and hopefully get over it too, while learning more about yourself and mankind.

The best sex is a passion thing and totally depends on the individual, but keep your eyes and mind open, you may be surprised.